THE ALPHA MARE

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THE ALPHA MARE

Dear Ones -
The other day, I was talking with someone on this page about how to walk through the world with “an undefended heart”.
This person was saying that she wants so much to live with an open and undefended heart, but then it always happens that people hurt her and attack her when they see that she is open. She doesn’t want to leave herself vulnerable to that sort of pain. So she shuts down. Understandably.
So what is to be done?
How do we live open-hearted lives without being victims of constant attack?
Allow me to introduce you to the Alpha Mare.
This is an idea that came to me through my beloved friend Martha Beck, who explained to me how the psychology of a herd of horses works. At the top of the hierarchy of a herd of horses, there is an alpha mare. She is the leader. (Stallions come and go, but the mare is in charge of the herd forever.) All the other horses look to her, in order to know what to do and how to feel. As long as she remains calm, the rest of the herd feels calm. And the alpha mare is always calm, because her boundaries are AIRTIGHT. She knows exactly

who she is, and nobody messes with it. Nobody approaches the alpha mare without her invitation. Nobody imposes themselves upon the alpha mare against her will. The alpha mare never lets herself be influenced by another horse's fears or anxieties or aggression. She knows what the right thing to do is, and she does it. Everyone else follows. She doesn’t need anyone’s approval for anything. She doesn’t need anyone’s permission. She lives and breathes from a place of integrity and certainty, because of her strong and appropriate boundaries. And as a result, SHE IS ALWAYS RELAXED.
And because she is relaxed, everyone around her is RELAXED.
Thus the whole herd can live safely and peacefully around her, with undefended hearts, and the alpha mare's heart is undefended, too.
It is fear that makes you defend your heart, but once you have discovered appropriate boundaries, you do not need to live in constant fear.
Until you learn how to hold appropriate boundaries, and stand in integrity, and speak your truth, you will never have a relaxed moment in your life. You will live like a fugitive, always on the run, always hiding, always afraid of being exposed.
A heart without healthy and appropriate boundaries can only suffer in a constant state of anxiety and defense — vigilant against the next attack,helpless against other people’s will.
To live with an undefended heart does NOT mean that you walk out in the world like a helpless child, wide-open and boundary-less, and you just let anyone do anything to you that they please. That is not openness; that is weakness.
No. You can only live with an undefended heart once you know the difference between “This is OK for me,” and “This is not OK for me” — so you never need to worry or stress about what’s going to happen to you next, or somebody will say next, or who will harm you.
Once you know the difference between “This is OK”, and “This is not OK”, you can walk anywhere in this world safely — your guard down, your eyes filled with curiosity, your soul filled with simple wonder.
That is the alpha mare, and she’s hiding inside you somewhere, waiting to come out.
I know she is.

The Rhythm of The Heart

When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight,

The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.
Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.
The tide you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.
You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learn to receive the self
You have forsaken for the race of days.
At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.
You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.
Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.
Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.
Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.
Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.
Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.
Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.
~ John O'Donohue, A Blessing for One Who is Exhausted
~ Image "Winter morning" by Tristan Campbell

Words In Your Heart

“One of the hardest things in life is having words in your heart that you can't utter.” ~ James Earl Jones

I had some extra time this morning, so I decided to go to Kathy's Blog.. I came across this article about our cells.. The title is Two things you should say to your cells every day.. I wanted to post this, and I'm going to print this out.. I love her practices.. They really help me alot..

Two things you should say to your cells every day.. You can find this article by going here..

Two things you should say to your cells every day

1. I love you. Love is a powerful force that is divine fuel for the cells. When you resonate at the frequency of love, you stimulate cell repair and regeneration. Give your cells a jolt of energy to carry out their tasks. And trust that they know how to do it perfectly. With these three little words, you’re acknowledging their consciousness and innate intelligence. If each little cell contains a spark of divine power, then together they are the life force that you feel humming through your body. When you tell your cells, “I love you,” you are speaking to your body but you are also speaking to your Spirit and Source. Your love will be reciprocated. It may feel strange to you at first, but the more you practice loving what you’re comprised of, the more natural it will become. Then you will start feeling the unbelievable change of your body, mind, and spirit. All because you decided to love yourself.
   
2. Do your perfect work. I already said your cells are your biggest supporters, right? When you’re holding onto a negative thought, emotion, or experience, your cells will store it for you. They will carry your cross! You’ve thought or spoken something so many times that the cells have taken it as direction. Connect with cells and let them know that it is okay to let go of what is no longer serving you. Free your cells and yourself of limiting beliefs so that they can get back to their real and healthy work. Give them permission to operate by their divine blueprint. Say:
   

“I release all cells from the past energy of failure. I give you back your right to perform as you were originally designed. Do your perfect work.”

A special surprise for me

A special surprise for me.. Someone has gifted me another free session with Kathy and Angel..  I am beyond blessed.. I hope to pay it fore ward to this beautiful group. This was a beautiful post for me to see.. If you are lonely, depressed, unstable, confused, angry, hurt, need good friends, full of anxiety, and you need compassion from someone.. Then you need to check out Kathy's FB group and her website.. A simple yet compassionate group of women you are trying to find their way in life.. And a desperate need to feel well...

It is a gorgeous Saturday and even more so with the news that one of our members has just donated a free 30 minute session to Julie Elder !!

Julie's hard work has not gone unnoticed both here and on her very beautiful blog. By sharing from her heart she sends a light out into the world that is far reaching, and in return is blessed in many ways.

Your session has been scheduled for January 30th at 11:30am EST. Please email in with any questions

And thank you to our awesome member who so lovingly gifted this today

How We Can Find Ourselves

“We only lose what we cling to”- Buddha

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 From The Blog of The Spirit Science

Feeling stuck? Don’t sweat it. Sometimes getting lost, is exactly how we find ourselves. In one moment, you may feel clear and concise about your goals in life and the next, you have done a complete 180 degree turn and are set out on a new path. Change is never easy but it is always necessary. Like energy, if things never changed, life would become stagnant, and the more we are able to adapt and flow in a state of non-attachment, the easier we can make it for ourselves.
So, when the wings of change come sailing through, leaving you feeling lost, confused and without a clear direction. Always remember.

I love the five things they listed.. You can treat yourself to them here I have started a journey of finding myself, and so I am magnified to reading all I can about finding myself.... I hope you can check their blog out. If you can leave them a message....

The Brokenness

 Many of us have come from the brokenness. And its ok to give this brokenness heart to our Father's heart...  We can ask him to help heal this broken vessel... He has chosen us as his beloved.. A constant reminder to us, even though we may feel broken... We can heal... I love Kathy Hope and Angel..... She has taught me so much in the little bit of time I have had with her.. She has taught us to be real with each other, a place where we can hold each other up, and her presence is peaceful... Be transparent with our brokenness.. Be truthful of the truth of who we are in Christ... Our brokenness can allow us to reach out to others, we can share and help build a stronger world.. Remove all the pain.. There is a better way.. Freedom can be found within it... Peace and bounteousness will engulf our very being...  Julie...

From Angel

We are growing and changing daily and that is healing...

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Everything that is happening now, was created because people believed this is the way things should be and or they say, I need to do this or that.

Everything is being created by individuals and the collective of spirits which is all of you.

You will make the biggest change in the world and others by a ripple like effect, but in order to start this you will change to a point most people will ask you what happened to you.
Not in bad way.
They will be surprised by the new you!

Work on being the light in your and everyone else's life and then you will see beautiful changes mind body and spirit.  Kathy Hope

Making Friends With Your Mind

Return to the Inner Flow and Freedom of “Unconditional Friendliness”

Have you ever found yourself thinking your way into a tangle of fret, frustration, or gloom? And then something small—a few kind words, the sun glancing through the Making Friends with Your Mind, that’s what Pema Chödrön helps us to do, not by chance but with our full intention: to stop fighting with our thoughts and reopen ourselves to wonder as naturally as we breathe.
clouds, a warm cup of tea—gave you a welcome pause from all your inner chatter? With
The Buddha saw that the human experience is full of drama: confusion and conviction, joy and sorrow, success and failure—and that our minds love to amplify all of it. “We decide somebody or something is a certain way,” muses Pema Chödrön, “and then that judgment gets frozen and fixated, long after things change. And things always change, right?”
In these free-spirited sessions, Ani Pema helps you to bring awareness to those inflexible thoughts and sticking points. Through meditations, daily practices, and the kind of simple pointers that can change our lives, you’ll learn that it is entirely possible to return to the flow and freedom of your experiences—and to find your way each day closer to a place of unconditional friendliness with yourself and with those in need.

• Why do I forget to be kind to myself. Seems to escape me quit often.
• In my challenging relationships and situations, I now know why its important to let go of my story and see what’s really happening to me.
• I am learning about my own inner comfort and greater kindness toward my body.
• I am learning how to lean into my own frustration, sadness, and fear with a spirit of trust and intimacy
• I'm learning how to use many other insights and recommendations to befriend the difficult places within myself today.

Through gentle and clear guidance, Coming Closer to Ourselves shows us how, even in the tumult of life’s uncertainties, we can begin with a glimmer of curiosity, move closer into our experiences, and discover a place of welcome and refuge within.

A Beautiful Thing to Behold

*A Beautiful Thing to Behold*

"You could see the signs of female aging of diseased especially if you had a vested interest in making women too see them your way. Or you could see that a woman is healthy if she lives to grow old; as she thrives, she reacts and speaks and shows emotion, and grows into her face. Lines trace her thought and radiate from the corners of her eyes as she smiles. You could call the lines a network of 'serious lesions' or you could see that in a precise calligraphy, thought has etched marks of concentration between her brows,

and drawn across her forehead the horizontal creases of surprise, delight, compassion and good talk. A lifetime of kissing, of speaking and weeping, shows expressively around a mouth scored like a leaf in motion. The skin loosens on her face and throat, giving her features a setting of sensual dignity; her features grow stronger as she does. She has looked around in her life and it shows. When gray and white reflect in her hair, you could call it a dirty secret or you could call it silver or moonlight. Her body fills into itself, taking on gravity like a bather breasting water, growing generous with the rest of her. The darkening under her eyes, the weight of her lids, their minute cross-hatching, reveal that what she has been part of has left in her its complexity and richness. She is darker, stronger, looser, tougher, sexier. The maturing of a woman who has continued to grow is a beautiful thing to behold.”

Break Us Open

How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.
 Elizabeth Lesser

~ Image by Peter Holme III

The Heart Of The Matter

My Heart is my biggest FEAR.. Although I know that my heart knows about Love and Compassion, but I am always beyond the acceptation of change, which keeps me always feeling powerless. I keep myself enslaved by my own actions, actions of others, and situations that are always around me.. When I reach out to face them head on, you will know that it takes my everything.. And I try each new day to face one of them, so I can escape this prison of hell...  I hope you enjoy this article, I know I could really relate to this powerful message.. It speaks to my soul... It reminds me to embrace open ended possibilities.

The most powerful aspect of the heart is openness. When the heart is open you transcend fear. You are not restricted or held prisoner by your fears because you see beyond their futility and embrace open ended possibilities. You are bolder but with love and compassion. Openness lets you live

beyond the narrowness of the ego self. You see yourself reflected in others and you are more receptive to change.
The opposite is also true. When we live in fear and allow ourselves to be enslaved by people’s actions or situations, we feel powerless. Our heart is closed and interestingly this is manifested physically as a feeling of constriction around the chest area. In extreme cases, it is also leads to cardiovascular problems and heart disease. Opening the heart comes with compassion, acceptance, caring and taking the opportunity to be courageous in moments when you feel sheepish.

You can read the full message here.. Do you suffer with this as well.. 

http://soulhiker.com/the-7-power-codes-of-the-heart/

Quality of Life

Quality of life has different meanings to different people... The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with."Tony Robbins"

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The best way of approaching quality of life measurement is to measure the extent to which people's 'happiness requirements' are met - ie those requirements which are a necessary (although not sufficient) condition of anyone's happiness - those 'without which no member of the human race can be happy.' - McCall, S.: 1975, 'Quality of Life', Social Indicators Research 2, pp 229-248

  WHAT IS QOL? QOL may be defined as subjective well-being. Recognising the subjectivity of QOL is a key to understanding this construct. QOL reflects the difference, the gap, between the hopes and expectations of a person and their present experience. Human adaptation is such that life expectations are usually adjusted so as to lie within the realm of what the individual perceives to be possible. This enables people who have difficult life circumstances to maintain a reasonable QOL. - Janssen Quality-of-life Studies

Quality of Life is tied to perception of 'meaning'. The quest for meaning is central to the human condition, and we are brought in touch with a sense of meaning when we reflect on that which we have created, loved, believed in or left as a legacy. - Frankl VE. 'Man's search for meaning.' New York: Pocket Books, 1963.

    In quality of life research one often distinguishes between the subjective and objective quality of life. Subjective quality of life is about feeling good and being satisfied with things in general. Objective quality of life is about fulfilling the societal and cultural demands for material wealth, social status and physical well-being. - Quality-of-Life Research Center, Denmark

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Tony Robbins(1960 )

"Life has no meaning except for the meaning you give it"

It is impossible to list all the rich array of attributes related to the concept of "Quality of Life", but literature has mentioned the following:

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QOL Attributes

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* Ability * Adaptation * Appreciation * Basic Needs *Belonging * Control * Demands and responsibilities Distress * Diversity * Enhancement * Enjoyment * Environment * Expectations * Experiences Flexibility * Freedom * Fulfillment * Gaps * Gender * Happiness * Health * Hopes * Identity Improvement * Inclusivity * Integrity/Intactness * Isolation * Judgements * Knowledge * Lacks Living Conditions * Mismatches * Needs * Opportunities * Perceptions * Pleasure * Politics Possibilities * QOL Domain: existential * QOL Domain: physical * QOL Domain: psycological Religion * Safe * Satisfaction * Secure * Security * Self-esteem * Society * Spirituality * Status Stress * Truth * Well-being * Wishes *Working Conditions

My Story

 

Hi, I’m Julie Elder, and I started my website julieelder.com to share with others about what I like and what I want to learn from others. And to be more candid about it, it’s what everyone is doing in today's Social Media online. I’m suppose to be a little funny, and at times show some serious sides of my self, so you can get to know me. Do you think it’s important to tell you that I am a mother.. When ever I come across a questionnaire, and it wants to to know something about me, I always, always want to begin it with “I am a mother of four daughter’s”.. Like it should award me with a Nobel prize or something.. But the truth really is, it wasn’t all that easy raising them four daughter’s Love em to death but it was a challenge. And all I can say is that I'm so glad that I made it through that part of my journey... Just for fun, here are a few of the things I'd rather try to forget about....  

 * Hair * Trends * Clothes ~ popular clothes name brand.. Guess was a big one, oh and Gap * Boys * Friends * Heartaches * Girl issues * Money * Dates ~~~ this list could go on and on.. And just to think, I was trying to hold down a full time job!! What was I thinking.... Now that I have made it half way into my life, My daughter's are grown, with families of their own, and some have decided to take my experience, and bag the whole family thing... Just living in there own world... Can't blame them there.. So I decided about 4 years ago, that I wanted to find out what I liked, what I wanted to do, what else could I possibly learn from the book of life.. Well I jumped in head first into my first network marketing company.. Thinking that I would enjoy learning how the online social media really works, and make some fast residual income, I was going to strike gold, one way or another. I was never going to work and support another company for someone else ever again.. And then came along the joy I was experiencing learning how to use Photoshop.. Now this was fun.. And so then my desire to learn how to build a website.. Yes I said a website. I was starting to feel pretty powerful, and it didn't help to have my father encourage me every day, how proud he was of me, and man you really made that. well I became a child again, just never could get enough of that praise from him.. It became an addiction.. And I was learning. I really was quit proud of myself.. Tired of hearing people complain every day to me on the phone for over 20 years of my life.. Well this was like a breath of fresh air for me.. Lovin every min of it.. So here I am in today's world.. I love to network and market and design. It has become something that I love to do..I have meet some incredible people over this past year, and I have learned so much, from so many of you. I am looking forward to this new year with great anticipation of creating some thing superior in my life. This next year 2010 I am eagerly looking forward to meeting a lot of my new friends, and just sit awhile with you, and enjoy the moment... My wish to everyone a very prosperous new year in 2010.. Best Regards Julie

Summary:

Over 20 years of progressive experience in direct sales industry. I am a high-energy leader with distinctive people skills. business design and some development skills, employee training, and communications. Ability to move projects to completion.

Specialties:

Ability to play multiple roles with broad range of both analytical and creative skills in marketing, lead groups, sales training, and some operation skills. - Technically competent in rapidly changing technologies and business strategies that demand attention to detail and strong long-term vision. A persistent goal setter, project finisher, and skilled collaborator. Entrepreneurial with proven leadership managing diverse teams and cross-functional by providing motivation and strategic vision. Julie Elder julieeelder58@hotmail.com Contact Form 7

The First Lady’s number one health rule: Give yourself permission to be happy.

 Give yourself permission to be happy.

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I loved this article. Probably because it really hit home for me. While I was a mother of 4 daughter’s. I was so busy trying to work 40 hours a week, and be super Mom when I was home. If you have never raised 4 daughter’s at one time, man was it a breaking point in my life. In the beginning I didn’t do too badly at it. But as the need for our families income to increase I found myself working.

I ended up getting pretty sick from all the tension that I was experiencing. My body took on it’s own mind, and no matter how hard I tried to get that control back, the mind was much more powerful than I could manage. I started having anxiety attacks, which would end up limiting my driving, or any kind of social appearances. I spent a lot of time just trying to figure out what the heck was happening. And the more I read the worse it actually got. I was trying so hard to find a solution, and wanted desperately to put a name to it. It wasn’t who I was, and I knew it. I just wanted to be myself again.

I never was the same person again, but I am living a more comfortable life, than I ever imagine would be possibly.. If I would have listened more to what my body was telling me, I don’t think it would have shut down like it did. So when I read this great article, I wanted to share it with every one. I have been really focusing on myself this past year, learning how to exercise, eat better, and I have lost 20 pounds. I am learning how to put Discipline into my life, realizing that I have two options to choose from, I can live with Discipline or I can live with Regret!!
Enjoy the article I want to share with you. Great advice from our first Lady Michelle Obama… View article here